Bullying: Now and ThenMarch 21, 2011 Marina Y Sanchez Freelance Columnist
Everyone is weighing in on this video…
…so I figured I would too. Hundreds of people are commending the boy who fought back against his bully, praising him on YouTube, dedicating their Facebook pages to him. Others are simply shaking their head saying all this shows is violence begets violence.
I hate to be one of those of people who say “In my time” … but I have never seen it more appropriate than now.
You know back in the day a good one on one never hurt anyone. My father use to tell me that when someone had a problem with someone else, a good fist fight would always handle it. Even fix the problem completely. That is how he met some of good friends.
Nowadays, people wanna resort to an extreme using guns and knives. Which goes to my whole point. People have gotten so soft! And so sensitive.
I was bullied when I was a kid. Most kids were. But it didn’t stop til I stopped it and stood up for myself. In my own opinion, kids are not going to tell a teacher or a parent. They are going to go to the most extreme. They bring a gun to school.
Somehow we have robbed our kids of confidence. They no longer stand up for themselves. And somehow we have given to some more power.
Times are different. However, we need to arm our kids with more than fists of fury. We need to arm them with self-confidence and belief in themselves.
There are going to be people out there that can take advantage of them. They need to know about that. They need to be prepared how they should go about the situation. And like anyone, they should know how to defend themselves.
I remember being really young and crying to my mother that my sister hit me. She would tell me very matter of factly, “Go hit her back.”
My mother was not about violence. Simply that’s just how people were taught back in the day. If you hit someone, expect them to fire back. Not literally.
Now in the case of the young man who was being bullied. Do think the bully will try again? I bet not.
Bullying sucks. However, because times are so different we need to encourage them to tell someone if they are being bullied even if it’s not a parent. Tell a teacher or friend. However, we need to teach our kids to stand tall and not let anyone push them around.
We need to remember that if we don’t instill good values of love, respect, and confidence we will always have reoccurrences of these nightmare.